Golden advices of Father to son.

Golden advices of Father to son.

Some advices my father gave me which have guided me along and made me
what I am. I wish to share these with those who care.

1. Speak the Truth. Truth wins. He who speaks the truth has nothing
to fear or worry. He can face others with courage and self confidence
unlike the one that spoke the untruth.

2. Respect Elders and Knowledge. Respect your Parents, Teachers and the Learned.
We learn from parents, teachers, books and others. These form the learnt part of
knowledge. But this knowledge is complete and becomes yours only when what is learnt is
experienced. We are told that sugar is sweet. Do we know what is sweetness?
Only when we taste sugar and experience sweetens shall we know sweetness.
Experience what you have learnt and make it your knowledge.

3. Love all and help those in NEED. Life is a bubble and may burst any time.
So live happily and honestly, helping others as much as you can.
Honesty is the best policy

4. Do to others as you would wish them to do to you. You do not wish others to hurt you.
Do not hurt others. You wish others to love you .So love others. You wish others to help you
when in need. Help others in need.You do not wish others to abuse you. Abuse not anyone.

5. Do not hurt others by deed or word. Should you by mistake hurt others, do not hesitate
to accept your mistake and ask forgiveness. If others happen to hurt you, forget and forgive.

6. Do not borrow unless it is for Capital need. Once you borrow there will be no end. You
will be drowned in debts and it will be an Herculean task to come out of it. So live within
your means Make 'Simple Living and High Thinking' your motto.

7. Live within your means. Know your Needs and Wants. Needs are limited. Wants are not.
When wants are met, you feel full and happy. Wants have no limit. When present wants are
satisfied, you want more and more and feel miserable until they too are satisfied. It goes on
and you are never happy.

8. Waste not want not. Do not waste anything because you do not need them to-day.
You may need them later. Do not increase your wants. Be satisfied with what you have.

9. Health is wealth. Cultivate healthy habits. Pay attention to personal hygiene.
Walk a mile everyday and exercise for atleast 30 minute every day. ( I do it even to-day)
Eat no junk food. Avoid over-eating and drinking, Sleep well but no more than 8 hours a day.
Wake up early and go to bed early, same time everyday. Remember the nursery Rhyme
" Early to bed and early to rise ....... ......"?

10. Do not long for what others have. Control your greed else you will be tempted to
commit all sorts of vices.

11. Emotions within limits are helpful and needed. (A log of wood has no emotions).
Conquer you emotions and you will never have to feel sorry for your actions.

12. A smile goes a long way. Put on a smiling face even in the dire of circumstances
and others are sure to appreciate and love you. A smile costs nothing!

It is easy enough to be pleasant
When life goes along like a song
But the man worthwhile
Is the man who can smile
When everything goes dead wrong

13. Look before you leap. When you have to do anything, think of the pros and cons, weigh
them and then act. Action is yours . The result, though you have meticulously planned after
weighing the pros and cons, may not always be the expected. Give no room for remorse.
Action is in your hands but not he result. (The result is not re-action of your action
but the resultant of various related forces.) So they say 'do your duty and leave the rest to God'

14. Talk less and listen more.

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Now for My philosophical and spiritual thoughts to share.

A visit to Himalayas and the great Oceans and some time spent viewing and appreciating
their nature will be rewarding. So are Sun-rise and Sun-set. The very size and expanse of these
will make you feel so small like an ant before an elephant, and you will feel humble before Nature.

Huge mansions are built and in due course they crumble. Empires are made and vanish after
their life span. What is born should die. This is the law of Nature.
Nothing is permanent save Nature.

Know thyself and there is nothing else to know. Self is the life-force trapped within the body
that makes living possible. As long the body is healthy the life-force 'Self' dwells in the body.
Once the body gets diseased and no longer congenial for 'Self' to live within, the 'Self', known
in Hindu philosophy as 'Jiva -athma' leaves the body and merges with the universal 'Life-force',
or Paramaathma'. There is no death for the Self. Only the body which it entered earlier it leaves
behind. This is considered death by survivors.

If you know that you are not the body but the life-force (Jivaathama) within, you will feel foolish to fear death.You do not die but only leave the body in which you lived for sometime just as we
leave the house we lived in and move to another when the house we lived in crumbles and
becomes no longer fit to live in.

Once a child asked the mother 'what is death'?
The mother replied "Remember when you went to sleep on the Sofa in the living room and
woke up on your bed in your bed-room"? Your father took you from the living room to your
bed room. Death is like that. God takes us to another place when he finds us suffering
in a wrong place.

Look outside for Mundane knowledge and look inside for Spiritual knowledge.
Looking outside is something that we all do and learn from what we see and hear.
For many looking inside may be confusing. All it means is shut yourself from external
stimuli and think about the wonder of the universe, its immensity, nature and permanence.
Then think about yourself in relation to the universe. Compare the organisation, nature and
the size.

Meditate over the resulting thoughts until you begin to see light that you are nothing but
the universe.

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